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The Experiment - A Final Compromise

Day 4 (Sunday) was pretty much a flop! Tom just couldn't seem to NOT remind them ... I think it was driving him crazy (regardless of how many times I would give him "the look").
So, Monday we explained the Experiment to them in a family meeting. I had hoped we would end up with a disturbingly, disastrous house ... but the truth is ... it wasn't all that bad! And, it wasn't entirely due to Tom's neurotic behavior Sunday. This is what we decided as a family:
1) Their chores will be done BEFORE they can watch TV or play any electronic game. The chores also include making their bed & picking up clothes ... as I mentioned before, this is something I think every person should do daily.
2) If they didn't do dishes on their night, they will still be responsible the next day.
3) Use common sense and pick-up after ourselves ... ongoing project!
4) Mom's going to chill out a bit! I stress easily, especially over the house ... and with this many people in a small house, I get stressed often. I believe their request was for a happy Mom ... I can handle a goal like that!

Speaking of loosening up ... we made a "Spider Web Pizza" for dinner last night (amongst a less than perfect house, I might add). The idea came from the October issue of Woman's Day magazine. I think Maddette & LooLoo enjoyed it the most ... they're the ones that helped!

The Experiment

Since the birth of our sixth child, I've been overwhelmed & haven't been able to shake this feeling of ... TOTAL OVERLOAD! After her surgery, our family settled down for a time ... then I started back to school in pursuit of a nursing degree. Schooling has taken me away from my family some, and I haven't been able to do as much for them as before. I've realized HOW MUCH I do for my family! Two things occurred to me ... 1) my children cannot function without me ... 2) I haven't taught my children how to take care of themselves! This is significant considering Teej will be on his own in a few short years. So ... I came up with an experiment.

Day 1 (2 days ago) I got up this morning and wrote "Experiment" on my mirror with a dry erase marker & tied a ribbon around my finger to help me remember ... not to lose my mind that is! I did my morning chores and cleaned up after myself & the two babies - no more. Initially, I was not to mention the word "chore" or ask anyone to pick up after themselves. Kiwi asked for permission to have a friend over, and that is when I decided to tell her “no”. She panicked and immediately asked why … I didn’t answer. She scrambled around the house and asked question after question as to what she needed to do or what she didn’t do. The night before she had slept on the couch, and the entire day the couch pillows were strewn all over the living room floor. She thought to pick that up with hopes that would resolve her dilemma. I finally said she was 13 years old, and I didn’t need to remind her of her responsibilities.

Day 2 (Yesterday) Today started with a prayer, a prayer for strength to keep up the ability to “ignore” the mess in my house. At one point I truly believed I would hyperventilate! Looloo asked if she and Maddette could watch a movie after they took care of their responsibilities. I told her how impressed I was that she would think to do that, and she said she knew I would tell her to anyway. Amazingly, chores were done … yet their beds were not made and their clothes were still on the floor (two things I think a functioning person should do on a daily basis). Even after Looloo began cleaning her bedroom because she thought that’s what was keeping her from watching the movie, I never caved … I kept my mouth shut, except to say they were old enough to know their responsibilities.
After dinner, I ignored the urge to remind Kiwi she had dish duty, and left the dirty dishes in the sink and on the table. At some point tomorrow we will run out of dishes, and someone will complain … that will be when I can calmly say, Kiwi didn’t do the dishes last night. Typically, the kids are assigned a day to do the dishes. If they’re not done, it is taken care of in the morning after they’re at school. I think I’ll let them sit until the person responsible does their job. Soon I will be working two 12-14 hour shifts in a hospital in Tulsa as a nurse. I need my family to function without me, if necessary. Brother Dave Young once told me that a successful president is one that can leave and the organization will still run properly. I have done too much, and I have not allowed my family the opportunity to learn to take care of themselves.

Day 3 (Today) Success! Tom, Tyler & Teej came back from a Father/Son campout and the dishes were oozing out of the kitchen. He complained and I said "the person who had dishes last night didn't do them"! Kiwi immediately said "I'll do it". (That actually irks me a bit ... that shows she knew all along she didn't do it.) ugh! So far my breathing is normal ... I may have to leave the house for a few hours. On the plus side, Looloo did her jobs this morning before she asked if she could play video games!

Happy Birthday Girls!

October 15, 1999 & October 8, 2006 are days that 2 very important people came to join our family ... Madalyn & Claira! Saturday we celebrated Madalyn's 8th, no wait 9th (hee hee), and Claira's 2nd birthdays at the Rec Center. The kids swam in the indoor pool ... and then froze outside on the patio for cupcakes & ice cream (well, at least they got to LOOK at the ice cream ... I forgot the spoons).

Madalyn is our nature child ... and loves indians! So she got a doll that looks just like her, with an indian regalia costume and cradle board to match. Claira got a new doll and doll stroller and had more fun sitting in the stroller than anything else. (we'll see how long it lasts!)
Thank you to everyone that came to make these beautiful girls feel special!

Little Miss Ebbeloo

Little Miss Ebbeloo,
Always snored and couldn't sleep too.
So Mom and Dad
Drove to the hospital pad,
And now she's all brand new!

Okay ... okay ... that was a little lame :) What can I say, I'm no Shel Silverstein. However, Little Miss Ebbeloo did go to the "hospital pad" to have her tonsils and adnoids removed yesterday. Since she was a small baby she has sounded "stuffy", and nights were often difficult because she had trouble breathing from her huge tonsils. The nurses as St. Francis Children's hospital were wonderful. When they checked her blood/oxygen levels (the little thing they put on the finger) they told her she was getting her "Princess Power"! She loved it, strangely that's all she remembers about the hospital :)
She had a little bit of a struggle at first, because she couldn't keep anything down. Once we were home she was up and busy, with energy enough to be a stinker! It's obvious she's more tired and doesn't feel quite herself yet, though. She's still swollen and in pain ... she doesn't eat or drink much, except popsicles, juice and water! We hope that, once she's healed, she will sleep better at night. Just think ... no more Evie lump in our bed!

Oklahoma Masonic Indian Degree Team

My Pappaw (pictured above, 4th from the left in back row) has been a Mason and a Shriner for as long as I can remember. This group of Masons, forming the Indian Degree Team, is the only group of its kind. They've traveled the world, including a trip to England last year, representing the Masons and their Indian Heritage.
Teej and Kiwi were given indian names by Pappaw and Mammaw in a naming ceremony. The custom is very old in some tribes ... there is a huge feast, and guests bring gifts to the child. Typically, the name is given on the 1st birthday. Teej's name is "Nitushi" (Young Bear) and Kiwi's is "Hushi Chuckmi" (Pretty Bird). Since Mammaw's death, he has been unable to do another naming ceremony.
I've always been proud to show off my very interesting, and very authentic grandfather ... Pappaw.

1st Day of "Snail"

Okay ... inside joke. LooLoo informed me a few days ago that I was NOT allowed to say the word that started with an "S" and ended with an "L", so I started calling it "Snail"! We started the day off with a family tradition ... breakfast at Braum's! Yummmmm . . . .
Teej started high school this year ... yes, I said HIGH school. UGH! I was 10 when I had him :) He is beginning a very busy time in his life. He is back in football after taking 3 years off. All summer he did Zebra Pride, a lifting and running camp ... he's hoping to be Wing for the offense. He's also playing the tuba for the Varsity Marching Band. He started out on the trombone from 5th thru 7th grade, then moved to bass guitar for the 8th grade Jazz band. In the Spring, he will be in Track instead of band so he can focus on his core classes since he's preparing for college. Not to mention Student Council, Honors classes and early morning Seminary starting Monday. Getting a picture out of him this morning was a fight! I threatened to walk him into school and take his picture in the commons area ... he finally succumbed.
Kiwi started JUNIOR HIGH today ... another UGH! She's grown up so much this summer, it amazes me. Junior High is a tough transition, going from 2 teachers to 7 different classes and teachers. She is also in the band, which will be Marching Band in the fall and Concert Band in the spring. She is taking a Youth Leadership course, which sounds like a lot of fun! It's sort of pre-StuCo, right up her alley. She's also starting pointe in Ballet in October ... I think she's more proud of that than anything else right now! (Yes, Mindy ... that is a jacket!)
LooLoo loves her new 6th grade teacher, because she's as spunky as she is! She is another musician in our family ... she plays percussion (bells, drums, bongos, her brother's head, etc.) in the Upper Elementary band. This is her second year and I think she plans to keep it up like her brother & sister. And yes, we are going for our own band :} LooLoo is one of our soccer players ... her team is the "Royal Pain" and will start up next month. Her best friend Abby was walking into school at the same time this morning, so we snagged her for a pic. Cute girls!
Maddette is a big-time 3rd grader this year. Her teacher is incredible and I am so excited for her teaching styles! 3rd grade is a busy year at her school ... they begin the year with a unit on Claremore history where she will do a report and model of the historical site she is assigned. They study Christmas around the world in December, and then a wax museum project in the spring (more on that later). Busy, busy! She will start soccer with LooLoo in another month ... she's quite the little athlete. Maddette is a leader in the classroom, and I know her teacher is excited too!
Ebbles will start preschool at MusikGarten ... a school that meets once a week with Mom, and encourages music in the home. It should be fun!